Digital Seminar
Healing from Affairs: Moving Past the Trauma of Betrayal and Infidelity
- Average Rating:
- 1086
- Faculty:
- Tammy Nelson, PhD
- Duration:
- 6 Hours 17 Minutes
- Format:
- Audio and Video
- Copyright:
-
Apr 19, 2023
- Product Code:
- NOS059220
- Media Type:
- Digital Seminar
Description
In this cutting-edge training, we will discuss the varieties of affairs and the many ways that relationships can heal from the betrayal that affects intimacy. We will review the stages of recovery that lead to long-term healing. Issues around trust, forgiveness, new visions of monogamy, sexuality and connection for the future of the couple’s relationship will be addressed. The recording will include videos and case examples to illustrate how breaches of monogamy can affect potential ongoing connection.
We will look at integrity, narcissism, second adolescence, parallel love relationships, online affairs, pornography, sex addiction and emotional infidelity and their effect on sexuality, intimacy and emotional connection and how therapists can help restart communication. We will review three phases of treatment and the steps of the recovery process.
It is crucial to understand the triangulation that can occur when therapists do not explore their own bias and countertransference and we will look at how to avoid unintentional shaming and client retaliation. We will look at the power of the third in the relationship, including the therapeutic as well as the romantic. This recording will delve into the meaning of each type of affair and participants will learn interventions to help repair, restructure and redefine the future and help clients create a new monogamy for a stronger more insightful and connected partnership.
This recording will move beyond a victim, perpetrator and rescuer model of therapy and will create sustainable monogamy agreements where transparency and authenticity promote resiliency.
Credit
Handouts
| File type | File name | Number of pages | |
|---|---|---|---|
| Manual - Healing From Affairs (12.73 MB) | 52 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Additional Handout (0.50 MB) | 13 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Transcript - Healing from Affairs - Part A (0.05 MB) | 21 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Transcript - Healing from Affairs - Part B (0.10 MB) | 41 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Additional Handout - French (518.7 KB) | 13 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Manual - Healing From Affairs - French (12.7 MB) | 52 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Additional Handout - Italian (0.50 MB) | 13 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Manual - Healing From Affairs - Italian (12.7 MB) | 52 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Additional Handout - German (0.50 MB) | 13 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Manual - Healing From Affairs - German (12.73 MB) | 52 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Additional Handout - Spanish (0.50 MB) | 13 Pages | Available after Purchase | |
| Manual - Healing From Affairs - Spanish (12.73 MB) | 52 Pages | Available after Purchase |
Faculty
Tammy Nelson, PhD Related seminars and products
Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice, a relationship and international speaker, an author, a faculty member and teacher with a Doctorate in Philosophy in Clinical Sexology. She is a board-certified sexologist, a diplomate of the American Board of Sexologists, a licensed professional counselor, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, a registered art therapist, a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and an Advanced Imago Clinician as well as an ISTI Certified Sex and Couples Therapist.
Dr. Tammy is the author of six books, including Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement (2021), Integrative Sex & Couples Therapy: A Therapist’s Guide to New and Innovative Approaches (2020), When You’re the One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need to Know (2019), The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (2013), Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together (2008), and What’s Eating You? A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia (2004). She is also the creator of Date Night Card Deck (2023), a TEDx speaker, host of the podcast The Trouble with Sex, and founder and executive director of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.
Financial: Dr. Tammy Nelson maintains a private practice and is executive director and primary faculty at Integrated Sex Therapy Training Institute (ISTI) and has employment relationships with Daybreak University and the California Institute of Integral Studies. She receives a speaking honorarium and recording, and book royalties from PESI, Inc., and she additionally receives royalties from New Harbinger and Sounds True. She is a paid consultant for Evergreen Certifications. Dr. Nelson has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Dr. Tammy Nelson serves on the board of advisors for the World Association of Sex Coaches. She is a member of the American Art Therapy Association, American Association of Sex Educators, Sex Counselors, and Sex Therapists (AASECT), American Comprehensive Energy Psychology Association (ACEP), American Counseling Association, American Family Therapy Academy, American Family Therapy Association (AFTA), American Psychological Association (APA), Connecticut Counselors, Imago Relationships International Association of Professional and Certified Therapists, International Board of Sexologists, International Institute for Sexuality and Human Development, Nonfiction Authors Association, Society Scientific Study Sexuality (SSSS), and the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR).
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Objectives
- Catalog infidelity using the three-part definition and how partners are affected in a marriage or committed partnership.
- Determine the betrayal trauma effects on relationships and how collusion and bias play a part in the secondary gain of the role of the third in infidelity.
- Analyze why the current therapy isn’t working and why some systems of recovery from affairs can retraumatize clients.
- Distinguish the three phases of treatment after an affair and determine how they can improve treatment outcomes.
- Distinguish the difference between implicit and explicit monogamy and create new monogamy agreements.
- Construct a revised formula for treatment plans after infidelity breaches, to include long term sustainable monogamy.
Outline
Affair recovery in Integrative Relationship Therapy- Why do people cheat?
- The types of Affairs that present in treatment
- What is Infidelity?
- Three Parts of an affair
- Countertransference
- Role of the third in treatment
- Avoiding re-traumatization in therapy
- What is betrayal trauma
- What is collusion and bias and secondary gain
- Individual integrative therapy
- Crisis/realization
- Insight/reevaluate
- Vision/renegotiate
- What is erotic recovery
- Pleasure heals trauma
- Treating the cheating partner
- Video: case
- Erotic shutdown
- What is second adolescence?
- Coping with reactivity
- Lean in lean out – the dilemma of ending an affair
- Trust, safety and the trap of forgiveness
- Implicit vs explicit monogamy
- Decrease rumination/blame/projection
- Micro and Macro behaviors in treatment
- Video: case
Vulnerable cycle
Long Term Monogamy Plan
Future Treatment Recommendations
Target Audience
- Addiction Counselors
- Counselors
- Marriage and Family Therapists
- Nurses
- Physicians
- Psychologists
- Social Workers
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